All parents experience the moment of despair with their child when you asked him to wear shoes and shoes three times nowhere. When you told him to do something and he was angry, disappointment is appropriate, but the words that come out of the words can harm his soul.
The children underlying the words and feelings of their parents, and negative feedback can create a sense of sadness and anxiety. It can also affect the self-esteem of the child.
Children need unconditional love, we need to understand them, keeping this in mind, follow a few phrases, which would be better to avoid telling them.
«Become a big boy / girl»
Parents often use this phrase to help their children with the transition of their age. The intention is good, of course. During the day, children are filled with different emotions. The second time they feel big, others are very small when they want to be alone, when they adopt themselves, if they do not feel good at the moment then they do not help to ask them to become a "big child", their margins Sometimes it should be smaller
"do not Cry"
A phrase you can say in the nerves or in an effort to calm it. However, some people use to deny events as important, send wrong messages to children.
It is crying right and feeling disturbed. When you call him "cry", it is like rejecting his feelings, what should be taught that the importance and crying of all the emotions is an acceptable expression
Prefers to talk about those ways that they can feel better and understand.
"There is nothing to fear"
If you use this phrase, then the children are already scared. The fear of childhood is completely normal and as soon as they grow up saying that there is no reason for fear, no fear is ending. Instead, try to talk about your fear
"You are Ok"
The opposite word "There is no bleeding" for you, this little scratch is nothing but this is also for the child. Try to understand how your child feels tired now? rubbish? Are you frustrated? Show her love
"Why should I tell it?"
The phrase in simple translation means "I am responsible and you have no right", it is an empty phrase that does not give clarification, so they do not understand due to some obstruction.
"I Will Do It"
Our little friends do not do the same before, and this can lead to frustration. In this case, you will be ready to help and correct the mistake. And yet, the message you sent is "I can, you can not."
"Try better" How do I help you in this? "
"Why can not you be ...?"
It is fascinating to compare between sister, cousin and friends. You probably do, to motivate your child, however, it understands your phrase as follows: "You are not good, it looks like this person and I will love you more."
All children are different, with different personalities and different needs. The comparison is useless and hurt.
"Finish it and calm down"
Are you trying to calm it down by saying this phrase? When people reject our feelings, it makes us more upset!
Help the child calm down, talk to him or ask him to take a break to rest. Talk about him why he is frustrated and help him work with his feelings.
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